I sort of hate the way I brought Maria and Chanel into this arc. I kinda wanted to do a lot more with them, but I felt like their role seemed mostly disjointed to everything else going on that it was hard to work in. That said, I didn’t feel I could leave them out entirely. This little segment with everybody seeing everybody and Chanel pretty much learning everyone’s truths all at once kind of helps reattach them to the plot after all.
Theory time: Will Rain actually come out? Would she even need to at this point?
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Well atleast Rain gets to talk to her brother about her transsexuality
I like Chanel, and I can kind of get why she feels left out but at the same time she should not have taken this personally.
@Ohka: I agree that she shouldn't have taken it personally as well. But I bet that's gonna be a way to make character development between her and Maria :3
Wow, I just noticed Maria's hair had gotten longer.
That went better then expected.
Chanel rly. Chanel. Stahp. "What!? You didn't out your friend to me without her consent!? You're leaving me out! I'm angry now!"
Rain's going to get the courage to do it and Aiken's gonna rage all over her, or Aiken will come out to them first about what's going on with Jessica, and that will further push Rain into the closet where shit will hit the fan when Fara's bf comes to give them the convention tickets or whatever they were for xmas. Or, things could go better than expected! What if Aiken rages first, Rain stays closeted, but Fara takes the tickets from Collin separately, and if/when Aiken's still around at convention time, Rain's 'cosplaying' keeps Collin from finding out? Can't wait to see how it turns out!
I dunno, I feel really uncomfortable with this "he has a right to know" thing.
No, he really doesn't. It's entirely up to Rain whether she wants to make this any of his business or not... I really think it is, and should be, entirely her personal choice, without her having to worry about making the "wrong" one. The right choice is whatever she feels more comfortable with. Why *would* her brother have a "right" to know?
I kind of disagree with this attitude even in cases where it's a couple. If one of the people in the couple is trans, does the other person really have a "right" to know this? I mean, sure, in a healthy relationship the trans person would feel comfortable enough to tell them anyway, and not telling *is* dangerous given how many people out there are *violently* transphobic, but... is there a "right" to know involved, as opposed to safety or emotional openness concerns? I believe there isn't... No-one has a "right" to learn about the innermost aspects of another person unless that other person feels comfortable letting them in -- and in our society, transsexual individuals have plenty of good reasons to *not* feel comfortable doing that in many cases, I think.
Well, if that's how you feel, or it's worked for you in the past, I'm not going to say you're wrong. It really IS up to the individual's discretion. It is, however, in my personal experience, been an extremely valuable asset to let close friends and family know who and what I am. And my now wife of four years knew I was trans since before we even started dating seven years ago. It made things easier. I never had to hide anything, and I could talk to her when I had trans-related problems, and that honesty and openness has been a boon to our relationship. I wouldn't have it any other way, and I have a hard time understanding how any transperson can stand being in a relationship where they need to hide so much just to maintain "normalcy". That can't be easy.
And that's not to say it's all been a piece of cake simply because I'm very open about who I am; that just wouldn't be true. Sometimes telling certain people was a complete error in judgment on my part. But over the years, I've learned to pick up on the signs of who in my life doesn't need to know, and who probably should know. And I personally believe immediate family should know. If my parents didn't approve, they wouldn't need to worry about it because I'd never see them again. But if I just "disappeared" because I couldn't tell them, that'd pretty much be the same thing. I didn't want to just throw my family away because I was afraid to tell them though. I did eventually tell them... and while they're still getting used to it (and probably won't ever be fully used to it), they still accept me. And that means the world to me.
My point being, yes, it's hard to come out. And yes, if it goes awry, it can potentially cause problems (to put it lightly). But if you come out to someone and they accept you? I have yet to experience a more wonderful feeling in my life. I am a woman. But I am also a transwoman. This is who I am. And those that are close to me, I want to know all of me. I don't want them to ONLY like me be because of something that they merely assume about me. If they can't accept me for who I am in my entirety, then they don't deserve to be my friend. And I want to know that about people up front.
I suspect someone is going to punch Aiken if he reacts badly enough, though the real question is, who will reach him first?
@Meh.Aloe: and @LittleLynn84:
I think it's more of a circumstantial thing. At the end, yes, it does come down to personal choice but I really think different situations with different people should be handled, well, differently. We all know how dangerous and stupid it is to try and hide it from a lover. It will always come out, and the longer someone waits to find out that their partner is REALLY not cool with it, the higher the chance of violence or death is. I think that, if you want to be safe and not hurt your partner's feelings, you should tell them as soon as possible in a relationship. It's much easier to alienate someone you haven't fallen in love with yet.
On the other hand, I feel that family can easily go without knowing (on a case to case basis). Some family members could be really cool with it but others, you KNOW won't be, and they really don't have to know. For example, my cousin knows about me and is wholey supportive. My oldest brother knows (my mom told him) and he's not cool with it or pissed off by it... he is more confused than anything, which could lead to acceptance down the road. My other brother, however, is the type of person who would beat the living crap out of me if he knew. We haven't spoken in years, and we are not close at all. Even our mom agrees that it's best to probably never tell him. None of these three people are really in my life at all. The last I saw my cousin was 7 or 8 years ago at a wedding and the last time I saw my oldest brother was at a funeral 3 years ago.
I know my situation isn't going to be the same as anyone else's. Friends that you see often should probably know, so as to weed out bad ones like with relationships, and caring friends can defend you if something happens. Family on the other hand, you can't get rid of. If you're close to your family, be prepared to lose them over it and tell them as you see fit. Keep in mind though, with family, once you've moved out of your parents' house, you're not obligated to do anything with them. You could never speak to them again if you chose. It's up to you.