One Step at a Time

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September 8th, 2013, 9:33 pm

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Let’s go ahead and draw special attention Rain’s interaction with Emily here. She’s coming out about being maybe lesbian but NOT about being transgender. Is that weird? This is actually something I kinda used to go through years ago, but I don’t know if it’s common occurrence or if I was just weird (and I guess in this case, Rain too).

As for the rest of it, I don’t even know where to begin. There is kind of a lot being covered right here. Your thoughts are always most welcome though.

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September 8th, 2013, 9:50 pm

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its probably a good thing she didnt tell emily that she is trans

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September 8th, 2013, 9:58 pm

Grace (Guest)

Coming Out

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No, it isn't weird that Rain is more closeted about her gender that her orientation. In my experience, it's harder to come out about gender than sexuality.

Additionally, most people have been slowest to accept the "T" part of LGBT. So from a purely pragmatic, "I-don't-want-to-be-bullied" standpoint, Rain is being perfectly reasonable here.

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September 8th, 2013, 10:05 pm

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nah its easier to come out with your sexuality then gender. While its still hard people are starting to understand sexuality is flexible however gender is very much part of everything from politics, culture, word choice ect. Its like when a babies born you don't ask oh I hope it likes boys/girls no the first question most ask/say is oh I hope its a girl/boy.

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September 8th, 2013, 10:26 pm

Hannah (Guest)

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Not wierd at all. Having been in that position before, and I'm sure many people will agree, transitioning is something many people just want to be over and done with, whereas one's orientation is likely to be a more permanent concern. Personally I'd rather leave what I was born as in the past, but my orientation will always be a relevant part of my life both personally and socially, so it's less scary, not to mention more practical to reveal it in my mind.

Plus as Grace said a lot of people still have a thousand and one misconceptions about what it means to be a transsexual, and it is scary as hell telling most of them. To add to that point, even if people are accepting or understanding, once you tell them that you were born a ___, that's it, there is no taking back that knowledge. This aspect of the big reveal sucks especially hard because in my case for example, I don't want people thinking of me as "Hannah who used to be ___", I just want them to see and think of me as me (you know, how most people think or see everybody else by default), and telling them anything otherwise feels like a betrayal of myself.

But then maybe I'm just projecting some of my own worries onto others, the point is it is scary telling people you're trans, especially after you've socially transitioned. It can end up feeling like all of your hard work both to have others accept you and more importantly to accept yourself was for nothing at times, and that, let me tell you, is not a good feeling at all.

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September 8th, 2013, 10:26 pm

RobinC (Guest)

what's the deal?

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I came out as gay years before I told people I'm trans. I thought, I swear to God, I was the only one, and that I was being silly! What is up with that?

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September 9th, 2013, 12:43 am

Adama (Guest)

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That last page seems like ominous foreshadowing that Rudy may not be as okay with things as he seemed...

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September 9th, 2013, 2:15 am

LilyFlareVII

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Hmm, I think in our society, homosexuality has become more public and therefore more excepted. Transgenders, however, are not talked about as much, so people don't know what to make of it. Do they except it; fear it? Is it real or just in that person's head. Is it evil and a sin? (Almost makes me think of a bunch of apes trying to figure out something they've never encountered before). So, it's understandable that it'd be easier to come out as a lesbian than as transgendered. Hopefully as our society matures, homosexuals and transgendered will see a day when nobody 'comes out.' I mean, nobody 'comes out' as a lefty, and that's hardwired into us the same as our sexually and gender.

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September 9th, 2013, 6:14 am

Allie (Guest)

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It's interesting to hear Rain mention how Rudy seems to brush everything off... often people who appear to be unfazed by everything are the ones most effected in the long term, cos they're just not letting it out :/

Not necessarily weird. I found it easier to come out to my family as trans than as bi, for example, probably because I'd always insisted (the most ironic possible form of internalised homophobia, in hindsight) that I had no romantic interest in guys, so it was easier to come out as the thing that *didn't* contradict 22 years of insistence. It's possible Rain is finding it easier to come out as lesbian (or rather homocurious I guess) because she knows Emily has exposure to other LGB+ people (Rudy, Maria, Chanel) and even managed to teach *them* something about sexual/romantic diversity, so Rain can be more confident in a no-big-deal reaction about her orientation than her trans status

I suppose it's also an outside possibility given the blondes comment that it's not Ana that Rain is crushing on after all, and she came out to Emily as probably-gay because she's potentially interested in her?

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September 9th, 2013, 7:10 pm

I can't login here (Guest)

uh oh

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This actually ended bittersweet, but I have this nagging feeling that something bad is going to happen.

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September 10th, 2013, 2:11 pm

Darkness Komet

Anyway

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Rain should do The Transition after she has Ana give birth to her child with both being the mommies of the child

and there is this page

http://rainlgbt.smackjeeves.com/comics/1047163/prologue-1/

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December 30th, 2014, 4:19 am

Kimiko (Guest)

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Nope, I still don't like the voice-over narration thing. It doesn't fit this comic's style. And it also goes against that 'show, don't tell' rule for good writing.

As for Rain giving Emily not the whole truth, I think that's kind of an occupational hazard being trans. You get so used to dancing around the deeper stuff by telling non-lies that it can backfire sometimes. No worries, she'll get around to telling her.

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June 12th, 2016, 1:01 am

TranshumanAr (Guest)

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Being a transgender lesbian seems weird at first, but it is interesting. The separation of gender and sexuality is possible and gives some freedom of exploration of how one really feels.

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