Who is Rain Flaherty?

posted November 12th, 2013, 7:05 pm


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November 12th, 2013, 7:08 pm

LittleLynn84

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I wasn’t quite sure where to put this. Chapter 18 is actually not going to focus much on Rain herself. But as Vincent said, I just wanted “to get that out on the table right off.” After a long chapter of waiting around for the appointment to start, I figure I owe you guys this much. ^_^

Fun fact: these pages are nigh verbatim of how the first five minutes of my first appointment went. It’s become a bit of an example in my mind of how I think these things SHOULD go.

Not so fun fact: I should remind you guys that starting now, we’re on hiatus. We’ll pick up again with the start of chapter 18 on November 25th. In the meantime… maybe other stuff. Just not pages. Later, boys and girls~!


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Rain, all characters and all other aspects of the story are copyright material belonging to me.

Also, I'm saving for SRS, and to be perfectly honest, I could use your help! If you can, great. If not, don’t worry about it. I totally understand (you don't need to feel bad or apologize if you can’t).
http://www.gofundme.com/4ql0j4

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November 12th, 2013, 7:57 pm

Danielle (Guest)

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I never had a therapist tell me something like that. I had therapists who wanted to gatekeep and literally wanted me to prove i was trans. I ended up not doing therapy and found a clinic that prescribed HRT based on informed consent.

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November 12th, 2013, 8:41 pm

Hannah (Guest)

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Haha, I love her reaction. "Oh my god... you are my favourite human being ever now." She's so adorable. :P

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November 12th, 2013, 8:43 pm

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Crazysauce, first comic I've seen via my feed and it's the last one for 2 weeks, typical hehe. Anyway I'm hoping to have something to save for each comic though not going to bombard the comments if I have nothing to add.

I guess my overall thoughts for this strip are... Well, it's a shame that one has to prove oneself (though clearly some therapists are worse than others in this regard!). Surely knowing your own feelings and knowing yourself should be enough to get the prescriptions and any other assistance one needs?

Even moreso in the US I guess, where healthcare is not free (I'm from the UK so I can see it being more of an issue here where taxpayers are essentially paying for everyone's healthcare, and so there's more pressure for the government to "prove" that the public's money is being used in the best possible way) but still... Either way, it seems very suspicious of... Doctors? Therapists? I'm not even sure who is actually behind requiring these "proof" steps for people wishing to transition. Anyway, it seems very paranoid and suspicious to not just trust people at their word. I guess people are making a choice that will dramatically affect their life, so the doctors and such need to be sure that they won't regret it later, but still.. Really sucks for people who have already had to fight so hard to get that far, IMO.

That said, if such a thing is a necessity, it sounds like Rain/Jocelyn had a relatively lucky break with therapists, which is great - maybe people with that kind of mindset should be the therapists to write the "guidebook" for all the others - you know, how not to be total jerks basically.

Aside from the comic subject, I have to say that Rain looks really adorable in this one, love the "shocked" look in panel 5 hehe.

And finally, good luck with the hiatus Jocelyn! Hope everything goes well and is generally smooth sailing ^_^

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November 13th, 2013, 3:54 am

Quinis

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If I had a friend who told me they were transgender, would 'awesome' be an acceptable response? (Although, I'm probably more likely to say 'cool' or something).

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November 13th, 2013, 7:06 am

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@Quinis:

It's hard to give a straight answer, because everybody's different. In some cases (like myself, actually), if a trans person comes out to a friend who responds, "awesome" or "cool," that might be comforting. With such a simple, quick (and positive) response, it shows you're not upset, not phased and not going to make a big deal about it. And for some of us, that's more than we could ever hope for.

Alternately, I know more than a few people who might take offense to it, actually. They might claim it's "insensitive" or that you're "not taking them seriously." If something like this were to happen, just apologize and try to be patient. Chances are very high that if they're quick to get defensive, they've probably been through a lot of rejection, and might have a hard time believing someone would accept them so easily (it's very unfortunate, but it does happen).

But if I'm being honest, I think any positive reaction beats any negative one any day. Many would be happy to hear a delighted "cool" in response. Those that won't be as into it will forgive you. Because you just as easily could say, "I don't think we should be friends anymore" and walk away. But you don't. "Cool," in contrast, means you're there for them. Even if it's not ALWAYS the best response, it's never really a bad one.

TL;DR - There's not really an all-purpose answer, but I think this is certainly acceptable.

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November 13th, 2013, 3:10 pm

Jade Catherine (Guest)

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I think my therapists was more or less *thinking* this, but explicitly saying it is an awesome idea. Remove that temptation to fearful dishonesty.

Much as I think it's a pain and I don't feel like I needed it personally, I approve of a requirement for counselling, just because being trans brings all sorts of trial and being psychologically well-equipped to face them is important. "It's dangerous to go alone."

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November 13th, 2013, 4:41 pm

Jade Catherine (Guest)

"awesome"

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Also, maybe he means "awesome" as in "awesome, I don't have to waste our first ten sessions nudging you to the point where you can honestly talk about what you are here for".

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November 13th, 2013, 4:55 pm

Claire (Guest)

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I've been self medding for five years because I'm a rebel =D

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November 13th, 2013, 6:03 pm

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I have a quick question. I apologize if it sounds ignorant, but...
So, I mean, I have no doubt that gender is an internalized thing. But I wonder a lot if any trans-people are more, uh, coerced, for lack of a better word, by gender roles in society. There's that question in the COGIATI, something about a genderless society, meaning no different gender roles or expectations, etc., and if they would still want to go through a transition. Would any trans people say no to that?
Thanks for your time. Your comic is really, really great!

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November 13th, 2013, 6:37 pm

Allie (Guest)

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Oh my god, a good therapist! ^_^ Why can't they all be like him lol

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November 13th, 2013, 8:06 pm

silas (Guest)

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my gender therapist asked why i was there considering i "basically had everything handled." i'd been out for 3 years prior so she skipped the "RLE" bullshit and wrote a letter for an endo. ((that's been more difficult. the endo's been really shitty abt starting treatment.))

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November 13th, 2013, 9:05 pm

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@(guest)(guest)(GUEST)):

The gender spectrum is as vast as it is confusing, so there might very well be some people who would be satisfied with a gender neutral society, however I think that most people who identify as transsexual would still feel the need to transition physically to make their bodies match their minds regardless of what clothes were acceptable for them to wear or what habits were acceptable for them to have etc etc.

As I said in response to someone else on the previous page, there's a difference between gender identity on an individual level, and gender roles as a social construct. One defines how you feel as an individual, the other defines how you're expected to act within the confines of society based on your apparent physical sex.

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November 14th, 2013, 9:21 pm

Quinis

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@LittleLynn84: Thanks!

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December 30th, 2014, 12:04 pm

Kimiko (Guest)

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Your first appointment was like that? o_o Dayung.. jelly..

Okay, not much. It's all in the past of course. But wow, I'd wish everyone a therapist like that.

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August 2nd, 2015, 1:53 am

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Oooh, I hope we get to see the whole session. Not likely, considering how long they can get (Based off what I heard), but still. I can hope!

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