The Flashbacks all refer to actual scenes.
Panel 3 - p.370
Panel 4 - p.202/204
Panel 5 - p.322
Panel 6 - p.238
Panel 7 - p.428
Panel 8 - p.11
On their own, none of these points would probably out Rain, especially if you weren't looking for or expecting it. Even altogether, nothing is actually confirmed. But as Emily says, if you know enough about the subject, it would be plausible for her to suspect it at this point. Thankfully, she also knows enough about the subject to not bring it up herself.
On the last panel of the second page, we see both girls lower their phones and the background starts blending. They are not physically next to each other now; rather, I started getting experimental. I didn't want this and the following several pages to consist entirely of two people with their phones glued to their heads. Besides being tedious to draw, I figure it'd get tedious to look at. With that in mind, I saw a perfect opportunity for some symbolism. So what the hey? I don't like having to explain this kinda stuff, but sometimes it's easier for me to just say it straight out.
Rain, all characters and all other aspects of the story are copyright material belonging to me.
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I always hate it when I lower my phone and the background starts blending.
I'm going to look at this far far too logical. So Emily is hurt Rain didn't out herself to Emily sooner, let's run down the list of people who know and why:
Rudy: Was accident in halls, she wouldn't have said anything to him otherwise.
Maria: Found out from her brother
Gavin: Found out from Rudy
Chanel: Found out after a while due to Rain's brother showing up, and Hijinks occured.
Kylie: Accidentally outed Rain by knocking on her door during brother fiasco.
So, according to my track record, Emily is the first person Rain has really come out to at school. Considering the dangers associated if Emily rejects Rain and tells people in the school, this is pretty big. I mean Emily doesn't know all this, but still, Rain shouldn't feel bad for protecting herself, and finally trusting Emily.
Yeeeeeaaaaahhhh, Emily is definitely one to be upset at keeping secrets in school.... argh. People like her just irk me.
Didn't Gavin have a similar reaction when he found out Rain was trans? Man, I'd hate it if someone said something like this to me.
No. No no no no no. Emily you do not get to be upset about that. No. I want to make sure everyone understands this. You should never feel like you're required to disclose the fact that you're trans. It is no ones business but yours and you should not let anyone make you feel like a bad person for hiding it.
@Danielle: Rain doesn't need to feel guilty about not telling Emily, sure. She shouldn't feel required to tell anyone that she's trans, sure. But let's not invalidate anyone's feelings, okay? Emily's allowed to feel hurt that a friend didn't tell her something. Both that and Rain's agency can coexist.
If she started guilt-tripping Rain about it, yes, of course, that would be highly reprehensible. But being upset about something isn't a privilege to earn. It's just an emotional response.
Yes I suppose you're right about her right to feel upset. But she does need to understand rain's right to not disclose. I'm just mad because Rain felt she had to apologize for it.
@Noodlez: she told gavin
When Emily first appeared, she seemed like the kind of self obsessed girl you have to dislike.
But she has become a very well developed person once you get to know her (as most people are, I suppose) and very interesting in her own right.
You can still see some of that original girl as she expects Rain to just tell her everything. And it plays into making her a very real, very believable character. Her reaction of feeling left out makes sense for her.
But I agree with Tess and Danielle, Emily does not have the right to make Rain feel guilty. Emily is responsible for her own feelings, not to project them onto Rain.
Edit to add - I really like the art transition in the final panel!
Both Maria and Gavin were told by Rudy before they went and confronted her about it. She was forced out as a result of Rudy. She just confirmed it when they asked.
Eish, enough with the Emily hating in the comments.
That's actually a common reaction as its from HER perspective, everyone but her does seem to know.
Her feelings HAVEN'T turned bitter or those with hatred, she's being honest.
Scroll to the second panel again THEN read the last one.
She's content it all being on Rain's turf... but she does feel left out. That's a human reaction and it's a credit to the writing of this series.
I don't have much of a choice at work. People have figured me out and the rumour mill has done the rest.
It sucks but it's true. Imagine that being the case... then someone you get close to DOESN'T figure it out, instead has a hunch much like Emily... Then they have the courage to ask and you feel it necessary to tell the truth. They will likely be hurt that everyone but them know.
Even when it's none of their damn business.
It kind of irritates me that any one of you are saying that Emily has no right to be upset. Of course she does.
And Rain was perfectly fine in not telling Emily immediately, of course trust had to be built, and she was protecting herself.
Both these things can be true. Someone can do something for the right reasons but still hurt someone else. What is wrong with you people saying otherwise?
Emily feels that she and Rain are close, so close she refers to her as her sister. But she stepped back and respected her even though she had suspicions because that's what friends do, she knew she had no right to simply expect Rain to be open about everything straight away.
At the same time she's aware that she wasn't clued in to something that everyone else was, regardless of the reasons everyone else knew. That's going to hurt almost anyone with functioning emotions. Acting like Emily is doing something wrong by being upset with Rain because Rain is trans and therefore a special snowflake is rather disgustingly ignoring Emilys rather real and legitimately okay emotions.
People feel things, and are allowed to feel things.
There are certain things that are better left unsaid to certain people. Rain did absolutely nothing wrong by not telling Emily she was trans sooner, but by confronting her about it hurting her feelings, Emily made it sound like she believed she did. If Emily wanted to vent to someone about her feelings getting hurt by not knowing this, it shouldn't have been Rain. I don't care how long I've known somebody or how many people know about my gender (which is currently nobody I know in the flesh, but that's besides the point), I wouldn't be okay with it if somebody said this to me.
It doesn't even just apply to gender. Nobody should be shamed for who they share and don't share details of their identities and feelings with. I'm sure Emily didn't mean to guilt or shame Rain, but when you tell somebody you've hurt their feelings, you're telling them they've done wrong. If you get hurt by someone doing something you believe they should feel entirely free to do, don't bring it up to them.
"Emily made it sound like..."
She didn't do it intentionally. Emily just wanted to speak her mind. It's not about guilt-tripping, it's about being open and honest with a dear friend of hers. Personally, I would want the same treatment. And being a caring person, Rain WOULD start to feel a little guilty about one of her best friends becoming sad. Rain doesn't HAVE to feel guilty, of course, but she does because she cares.
"If Emily wanted to vent to someone about her feelings getting hurt by not knowing this, it shouldn't have been Rain. I don't care how long I've known somebody or how many people know about my gender, I wouldn't be okay with it if somebody said this to me."
You would rather your friends talk about you behind your back, than just be honest with you? I think it's better to have this kind of communication going (not specifically gender-related). If someone has a problem with me, I'd want to know about it. Then maybe the two of us can work it out like two level-headed adults that we are. If there's no such communication, then the situation can't be contained. I wouldn't know what the other person is saying - potentially spreading - to other people. Maybe it's just me, but I would think that'd be a lot worse.
I agree with Mitani here. A lot of trans people tend to be entitled and think that everything revolves around them and they stop taking into consideration the feelings of others. I really wish they'd stop, it'd help society accept us a lot easier if most of us weren't being jerks all the time :\
IMO Rain's doing it right. Only thing that'd make Emily an awful person is if she kept harassing Rain for the next several weeks or knowingly outing her without permission or somethin. Doubt she'd do that though, from what I've seen.
Okay... I'm going to say that I fully understand the annoyances some people have with what Emily said. However, let's keep in mind people that Emily is not yelling at Rain, she is not scolding her, she is just being honest about feeling a little hurt because she believes it's better to do that than to keep it bottled up and let it fester.
And frankly, I think a few people are overlooking the fact that Rain was the first person that Emily told she was pregnant. That is a secret that could potentially get Emily kicked out of their school if it got out. Granted Rain's secret could get her kicked out too, but I totally understand Emily feeling at least a little hurt that she shared with Rain, but Rain didn't feel comfortable sharing with her yet. I'm not saying Rain owed it to Emily to tell her, I'm just saying that Emily does have at least some right to feel upset here.
Good grief -shakes head- Like I said Emily isn't chastising Rain or anything like that, she's just being honest with a close friend that she's a little upset at being kept in the dark when everybody else already seemed to know. There's nothing wrong with that.
Oh, and in regards to the "everybody else already seemed to know" thing, people should also keep in mind that Emily is not aware that pretty much everybody else has found out by accident. Emily's the first non-family member Rain has willingly come out too (at least based on what we've seen in the comic). I would personally like the next comic to have something to do with Rain explaining that to Emily, because I think it would make Emily feel better. That doesn't mean I think Rain *owes* such an explanation to Emily though by any stretch of the imagination, I just think it would be a nice thing for her to do to show Emily that they really are close.
"You would rather your friends talk about you behind your back, than just be honest with you?"
I think it depends on the situation. If it's something where they think I did something wrong, then I'd want to know about it, but if it's something where I was doing what was best for me and they knew that, but they still didn't like it, I do think I'd rather not be told.
I did some thinking, though, I think I can see how Rain and Emily's situation might be different from my own. I think that like you, Rain is someone who would want to know about this sort of thing, and Emily telling her about it could give Rain an opening to reassure her that it's nothing personal.
If it were me, someone saying this to me would make me feel like they were making the way I deal with my gender about them or they felt entitled to knowing about my feelings and secrets, but Rain might have a different perspective on that. Many people do.
There's a difference between accusing someone of not trusting them with a secret and confiding hurt feelings. Emily did the latter. She did not say or even imply that Rain was in the wrong--just said how she felt. And it needed to communicated, because with friends, communication is important.
It's good that Emily said this because if she didn't, the hurt would fester and there would be a worse and probably less honest confrontation down the road. Hurt feelings happen even when they shouldn't, and they need to expressed so that they can be worked out.
It isn't right for rain to feel guilty, and Emily DOES need to understand that. But that is exactly what these two need to work out through communication.
I seem to miss why Emily was hurt in the first place. I mean, Rain was the one who brought it up and told her anyway. Sure, she wasn't told immediately, but to be fair, she didn't really tell anyone BESIDES Emily. Everyone else just kinda figured it out.
I'm confused why Emily is even hurt with being the only one not knowing, even right after she was willingly told.
I'm having a difficult time figuring out how half of you have any functioning friendships if you keep secrets from everyone all the time and get pissy whenever any of your friends express emotions.
If only you were all born in an era where you could be friends with bot #0028 and didn't have to deal with such finicky things.
It's beyond ridiculous that anyone has managed to find a problem with such a normal thing as what is happening in this comic. Do you tiptoe around your own emotions and do your best to ignore other peoples because they somehow inconvenience you with their feelings, or you don't want to inconvenience them because you felt something?
Seriously, I feel like this is something that should be part of the basic experience of being human. How do persecution complex's even evolve, speaking up about how you feel should in no way make someone feel as though you're attacking them emotionally. It's a necessary step of communication, admit when you are feeling bad and why, so you can attempt to sort through that feeling and move on. Would you all rather Emily stew in unjust resentment at having felt, justifiably, left out? What possible better outcome is there than Emily maturely voicing her feelings and thoughts so she can talk to Rain as an adult so their friendship can strengthen.
@Silverback: It kinda makes sense... Rain's called her a sister for a while now, bringing her into her life, etc. Its enough to give the feeling Rain really trusts Emily, so it's not like she's expecting it from a total stranger.
Also, I'm not sure is she's saying it to make Rain feel guilty or just expressing her true feelings here.
I suppose this means we're close to reaching the end of this beautiful chapter, and thus, the volume. I suppose it was inevitable. I will just have to buy more volumes when I am able.
I'm somewhat glad to see her list off the things that clued her in on this issue.
One question, however: didn't Rain's friends tell Emily that the present was for Rain realizing she may be gay? Or was that just the letter?