Happy Transgender Day of Visibility, all! I decided to go all out, and wear my trans shirt, with my trans pride button, and my trans pride wristband, and waving my trans pride flag. I like to keep it subtle, you know? XD
Seriously though, I am out and proud. While passing is important to me, I don't like hiding what I am. I had to fight long and hard to be able to present the way I do. And I'm grateful to what my efforts have earned me. Today, there's not a person in my life that isn't aware that I'm a trans woman. I wouldn't want it any other way. I understand that's not for everyone, but it's the only way I can be.
Yesterday, someone asked me why any trans person would want to visible, knowing the dangers that we face. There are risks to being visible, yes. However, I've unfortunately had a lot of time to think about my mortality for the last six months while I dealt with cancer. And regardless of whether I was stealth or visible, everything would have played out the same way. It wouldn't have changed whether or not I got cancer, and it wouldn't have changed the outcome.
If you want to be stealth, that's great. Do that. As long as that's how you want to live and it will make you happy, you absolutely should do that. But likewise, I say if someone wants to be visible - risk be damned - then they should. Life is too short, and we don't know how much time we have or how we're going. That risk may never come in to play either way. As such, I believe everyone should spend their life living in a way in which they can be happy. If that means visibility, awesome! If that means stealth, awesome! Being open and visible makes me happy. And I will wave that flag with pride to the very end.
No matter how you identify and present yourself, do have a lovely day. ^_^
We fear the unknow and everything that may change our stability and so the small power we think we have on our life. That's why we need to see more and more trans going out and all the gay and assexual stuff (and all the think I miss, sorry i'm not an expert ^^; ) until this is common stuff, people will fear it and be aggressive.
Lynn and everyone who has been going out, you're courageous ! Thanks for all your effort !
Whats awesome inst the fact that people ARE trans, (even though its pretty cool) but that their brave enough to go around waving flags and wearing pins about it. =)
Sorry it is a virtual flag, since I don't have a real one :\
Tolerance of things that affect us directly is a virtue.
Tolerance of things that do not affect us directly is the price of a civil caring society.
Your hair looks freakin' amazing! I mean, the rest of you does too, but I- I just really like your hair ;_;
I admire the crap out of you. Your attitude and your strength is inspiring. I'm so glad you're doing better. <3