Always a Girl

posted August 27th, 2015, 6:02 pm


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August 27th, 2015, 6:32 pm

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I think a lot of us would agree that Rain still passes. But her longer hair brought her comfort and security (cis or trans, I'm sure most of us have that one personal feature we're so super proud of and would be wrecked to have to give up). So, it's safe to say her confidence is shot having it cut like this. She's not freaking out too bad so far, but keep in mind that she feels safe around everyone in this room. The fact that she spoke so peacefully to Aiken shows how comfortable she felt around him too. And it's probable that she'll feel okay around Gavin, Rudy, Maria, Chanel, and Kylie too.

But what about EVERYONE ELSE she goes to school with, classmates and teachers alike? And I'm not even talking about how they feel about her; I'm talking about how she feels about herself around them. Speaking purely for myself, that's what passing always meant. I don't give a good god damn what other people think of me (I already know I'm a woman; I don't need anyone else's approval). However, if I don't feel good about myself, the rest of my presentation is going to fall apart. In my opinion, confidence and a positive attitude has WAY more passing power than all the pretty clothes and makeup and hair styling and voice training in the world.

That's why it's important to note Emily's wording here. She's not saying, "don't worry about it." She's not even saying, "you look like a girl." She's simply reminding Rain that she IS a girl. I don't know. This could all just be me, but that was always the kind of encouragement that meant the most to me, especially when I first starting out.


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August 27th, 2015, 7:05 pm

Ranger

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Oh my god, that last panel.

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August 27th, 2015, 7:46 pm

Avistew (Guest)

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Yeah, as much as I like Rain better with short her, she lost her security blanket and hair takes a while to grow, so I'm sure she's freaking out about people seeing her. I think a lot of people would after a big, unwanted physical change, even without being trans. In her case, she worries everything may "out" her so I'm sure she's really worried about the whole thing.

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August 29th, 2015, 11:38 am

Guest Guy (Guest)

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@Avistew: I do kind of feel insensitive sometimes about gushing over her hair. But then I see it again and start gushing again.

Omg I love it!

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August 27th, 2015, 7:53 pm

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"You had a "Fara!"

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August 27th, 2015, 9:18 pm

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@mj1343: Why does Rain get a Fara AND an Emily?!? I want the whole set!

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August 29th, 2015, 11:39 am

Guest Guy (Guest)

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@Nesagsar: Collect 'em all!

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August 27th, 2015, 9:00 pm

Luvbster

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Haha, oh man, not me. I have no idea what it's like to be proud of a physical feature.

...I don't HATE anything either, but if you asked my what my favorite aspect was, I'd just shrug.

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August 27th, 2015, 10:14 pm

Oblivious (Guest)

Haircut

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Were I in the position of one of Rain's classmates, I'd likely not notice the haircut for several days, assuming I'd notice at all. Even if I did, she still looks like the girl she is, so she'll do fine is my guess.

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August 27th, 2015, 11:10 pm

Arcanist Lupus (Guest)

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My guess is that she'll get a lot of compliments that her new haircut looks cute (since it does).

Which, depending on the exact wording could either help or hurt. On one hand, being complimented on a haircut that you hate could be painful, but being told that it's 'cute' means that she's being reassured that she still looks girly, which will be encouraging.

And of course, all it will take is one unknowing comment about a 'boyish' haircut to completely shake her composure.

I do hope that someone thinks to warn her friends ahead of time, since Rudy in particular is prone to thoughtless comments when startled.

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August 27th, 2015, 11:13 pm

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"cis or trans, I'm sure most of us have that one personal feature we're so super proud of and would be wrecked to have to give up"

The only thing I'd give up my somewhat long hair for is even longer hair... The rest of my body could be completely reworked and I wouldn't mind. XD

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August 29th, 2015, 11:32 am

Guest Guy (Guest)

Of course she does!

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I've said this before and I'll say it again, I adore pixie cuts and the like. I actually prefer them to long hair.

So yes, she does pass. Not only does she pass, but she looks absolutely stunning!

When I first saw her new style, I swear there must've been cartoon stars in my eyes. It's like you took all my childhood crushes and used the fell powers of art to sew them into one adorable, sexy, nerdy young woman.

God bless you Ms. Lynn, God bless you and all your adorable 2-d children.

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August 29th, 2015, 11:36 am

Guest Guy (Guest)

Hair

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I'm a boring ol' cis-male myself, and I probably wouldn't do it anyway even if I could, but I've always been a bit sad about the fact that my hair just doesn't get long.

Once it reaches the bottom of my neck, all it does is grow outwards like a straight-hair afro and curl around my ears. The latter part is especially weird, since my hair is otherwise straight. When I was a kid, it made me look like I should be a female extra in Grease.

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August 30th, 2015, 5:34 am

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@Guest Guy: My hair tends to do this too, although only partially. It's mainly the sides.

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August 30th, 2015, 2:14 am

Medway (Guest)

Passing

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Being a trans person myself, I totally agree with Emily. Personally, I find it difficult to tell sometimes whether or not someone passes -- I simply see people for who they are, without holding them up to cisnormative standards.

That said, I'm far more critical of my own appearance than of anyone else's. Despite people assuring me that I look good as every gender (and being read ambiguously or as female by strangers), I often feel as though I look too manly. I guess that's true of most people -- cis and trans -- though.

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August 30th, 2015, 9:06 am

Chrissy (Guest)

Vincent' dog house

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I think Vincent may have just put himself in the dog house with that last coment...

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August 30th, 2015, 2:50 pm

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Is there going to be a new page today? It has been 3 days and I don't think it has ever taken more than that to see an update.... Not lately, anyways.

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August 30th, 2015, 3:00 pm

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@TallMist:

The comic updates every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. This page went up on Thursday evening (ie, the Friday update). The Monday page will probably go up a little later tonight. Since there's no Saturday or Sunday update, there is naturally a slightly longer gap between the Friday and Monday updates than any of the others (which is why readers hate it when I have cliffhangers on Fridays). XD

So, no worries! This is all totally normal. Nothing's late. In fact, if it goes up tonight, it's technically early. ^_^

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December 31st, 2015, 3:04 pm

Maplestrip

Gender-blindness and friends.

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Emily sometimes seems to have some form of gender-blindness. I'm often not sure if she's just being a very very kind person or if she legitimately can only see what people want her to see :p

One interesting thing I thought of earlier: Drew and Rob have seen Rain at the con with long hair. Maybe they'll just forget that she had long hair, but it would be pretty odd for a person to cut their hair after going to a weekend-long convention...

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