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October 22nd, 2015, 4:31 pm

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Long blurb again.


Well, clip-ons are a thing too, Rain. (Not that I can judge. Mine aren't pierced either, despite having meant to do something about that for a few years now.) XD

As an addendum to the previous page/blurb, what does it mean to be feminine or masculine? The answer is going to be different for everyone. Trans girls and boys have their own varied spectrum of gender expression (cis girls and boys do too, of course!). Some of us (male and female alike) are more girly. Some are more butch. Some sit in the middle. Some try to identify with neither. Some even have their own fluid gradient. All are perfectly acceptable ways to be.

I would like to think it's apparent by now that Rain is what one might call a "girly girl". Never once in the comic has she been depicted wearing pants by choice. It's ALWAYS dresses and skirts if she can help it. And when she talks about what makes her feel feminine, she brings up make up and clothing and styling her previously long hair. I admit she can be a bit of a walking stereotype (yet another way she's based off me), but there's not actually anything wrong with that as long as we remember that this is NOT a static definition of femininity. In fact, I don't believe there is a definition that's one-size-fits-all so to speak. It's what she needs to make herself feel feminine. It's going to be different for everyone. "It's up the individual. We're just women in our own ways."

I could be mistaken, but the cis crowd probably doesn't think about this as much (and more power to you if you don't). But a lot of trans folk feel they need to work extra hard to be able to fit into the gender expression that feels right to them, allowing them to feel comfortable in their skin. It can be something as extravagant as decking oneself out to the nines, to as miniscule as wearing a single accessory. Maybe even just wearing certain types of clothes or even certain colors, or parting one's hair a certain way, or even just carrying around a small trinket that no one else even sees. The things that work for you can seem strange and irrelevant to others, but might just be essential for you. And again, we're all different, so it might be different for everyone.

I've noticed nails, earrings and/or heels are very common ones I've seen for trans women. For others (of either binary gender), just wearing certain underwear more attuned to their preferred expression (even if no one else ever sees it) can go a long way. When I was in high school, long before being out to anyone or starting transition, I used to wear stockings or a bra under my clothes. No one knew they were there, but I did. These would work miracles for me in those early years when I thought that transition would never happen for me.

"Neckcessories" are my thing now. Necklaces, chokers, collars, scarves, whatever. Just something on my neck. Sure, guys can and do wear things like that, but for one reason or another, it still helps me feel more feminine (for me; I do not think other women are less feminine if they aren't wearing something like that. It's my standard for me.).

And I hope this doesn't give off the wrong idea, but I also feel more feminine when I can show a little skin. I love skirts, dresses, and shorts, as well as low cut and/or sleeveless tops. I'm not looking for (nor even remotely interested in) other people's attention, but I can say I feel better about myself when I'm dressed like that. It helps to make me feel more feminine.

The important thing though - which I can't stress enough - is that it's what make me feminine and confident. It won't work for everyone. And trial and error was necessary. I always knew being male wasn't right for me, but it took a long time to figure out what kind of girl I actually was. So don't be afraid to try new, different things (even if they seem to be out of your comfort zone) because you might be surprised what feels right for you. Likewise, try not to be discouraged if the first thing doesn't work out. Trial and error means there will be some duds. It sucks, but it's not the end. If you keep trying, you'll find what works for you. ^_^

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This got REALLY long and tangential again. Sorry. There was a lot I wanted to say. Like last time, I hope this is at least helpful or interesting. And "I hope that made sense and was also not offensive..." XD


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October 22nd, 2015, 4:54 pm

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You bring up some important issues, even as a cis woman I can agree with/understand on a personal level.

I (no offense here and it's not something I would be able to notice) understood some MtF trans women wore chokers to hide their adam's apple.


Also on clothing I know of a MtF and she feels comfortable in jeans and that's who she is and how she feels comfortable as a woman.

Furthermore on the clothing, I actually can understand what you mean. I personally used to be quite a tomboy and it was always part of my identity. But in later years I sometimes switch it up with a SUPER girly style known as fairy kei (not to extremes, I wear a more casual version). But even so, I switch it up even more - sometimes I'm casual goth, sometimes even still a tomboy. However, I can't stand a everyday skirt too short and will insist on wearing hot-pants or shorts under it if I do. But even with the mention of underwear, from an early age of even preteens, my Mum insisted I buy nicer underwear (which of course at that point wasn't sexy but eventually ended that way) because even under your clothes it just gives you that little confidence boost.
And that's how I express my femininity and that's fine for me.

Everyone is different and of course that means everyone's taste in clothing is different.
Whether you want to wear a skirt or jeans (or long or short hair, etc) - it doesn't make you any less of whatever you are.

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October 22nd, 2015, 5:30 pm

k_dragon (Guest)

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My earrings are punk rock studs :0

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October 22nd, 2015, 7:05 pm

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I have thought of Rain as female so much that I actually forgot that she's biologically male.

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October 22nd, 2015, 7:11 pm

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Yeah, I haven't pierced my ears, either, but what I HAVE done is worn a bracelet. It's a cheap, glow-in-the-dark bracelet on my wrist, but it's the closest thing to jewelry I can safely get away with wearing, and having it on 24/7 has helped me a lot, offering comfort.

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October 22nd, 2015, 10:14 pm

Arcanist Lupus (Guest)

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Earrings are a good idea. Ranger's bracelet idea is also good. If she gets called out on it, she might be able to get away with it on the "I don't want people to think that I'm gay" defense, although that's probably a rabbit hole that will only end in problems.


Also, she might try transparent nail polish. Nobody else would be able to see it, but knowing that it's there might help her.

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October 23rd, 2015, 12:37 am

Anna Rei

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There is always hair extensions.

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October 23rd, 2015, 1:51 am

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*gasps and excitedly hops up and down* Stick-ons! Stick-ons! They little stickers you put on your ears as like temporary earrings. I used to wear them all the time when I was a kid; and they had all these boards with a calendar so you could wear a new pair for every day of the month. And they came in all sorts of shapes and colors-I think they still sell them....?

She can also try transparent or glitter or glow in the dark nail polish. Hair accessories with patterns or cute colors works. I know my school allowed highlights and even color streaks so long as they weren't 'unnatural' colors. So she could get the tips of her hair frosted or put highlights in if she'd like or something like that.

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October 23rd, 2015, 3:55 am

omg omg (Guest)

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"but my ears aren't pierced" DO I SMELL A TRIP TO THE MALL??

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October 23rd, 2015, 10:15 pm

Alison (Guest)

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I wish i could dress the way rain does. i just dont have the body type for it (YET)

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October 24th, 2015, 9:56 pm

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Yesss. Trip to the mall to get her ears pierced! And think of all the fun buying earrings! I remember how much fun my wife had when she finally decided to get hers pierced. The first pair I bought for her were diamonds set in a filigree rose.

There's so so many things to buy! I finally bought Vol 1 & 2 of Rain! ;)

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December 31st, 2015, 6:28 pm

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THIS page, however, does relate to me. And I'm still not sure how.

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