Trans Man

posted December 30th, 2015, 7:30 am


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December 30th, 2015, 7:47 am

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Vincent is probably the most laid back character in this comic. If I had to ever depict a situation where he got mad at someone, I feel like I wouldn't know how to write it. XD

Anyway, it's interesting that in response to my last page, I actually had a few readers say they would rather people directly ask about their trans status than just guess or talk behind their back about it. I had to bite my tongue because I knew the next page would cover exactly that premise. I'm very much like Vincent (and those readers) in this regard. I like talking about my experience as a trans person. I like answering questions. I know I'm not obligated to, but if people confront me directly, at least I can help get the facts straight.

Of course, like Vincent also points out in panel two, I know not everyone is like that. I've mentioned this before, but it's generally seen as more respectful if you don't bring it up unless the trans person in question does. In my experience, when people ask me trans-related questions (particularly personal ones) without me initiating, I usually just preface my answer with "You can ask me this, but not every trans person will be as happy to answer your questions. For future reference, to respect their identity you should let them start the conversation." And then I'll answer them.

I might add that the last three panels might be more of a me thing too. I hate the person I was before transition, but I can talk about it. I can't change what happened in my past, but that doesn't mean I'm any less what I am now. So I can, will, and do talk or joke about my past a lot. And I'm so open about this, the people in my life know they can too (to me, that's more comfortable than having my friends feel like they have to walk on eggshells around me). I know my friends aren't malicious or mean harm, so it's no issue for me. I can perfectly understand why it WOULD be an issue for others though.

This is reflected with Fara's panel six remark. Some readers might be mortified by that line, but I'm hoping that showing Vincent joke about it as well shows that he's fine with her saying it. The general rule remains the same though: not everyone is fine with this, and you shouldn't assume they are. Out of respect, don't talk/joke about it unless they tell you it's okay. Nonetheless, because I'm so open (and so is Vincent's character), I really wanted to depict this as a contrast to Rain and Jessica's more closeted natures.

Finally and less seriously, regarding panel four: lots of people refer to Vincent's old band as "The Flaming Toasters". It's "Toaster on Fire". I mean for it to be the more grammatically awkward thing to say. XD

This blurb was WAY longer than I thought it would be... >_>


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December 30th, 2015, 3:13 pm

Itazu (Guest)

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I am so much like Vincent, lol. Very open trans guy here, rather laid back, gifted in the chest department where I don't want to be :P I even like to sing.

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December 30th, 2015, 5:20 pm

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Hmm, yah, I'm not sure I'm like that about my past. The occasional joke is okay, but in general I prefer everyone pretend I was never the worng gender. I suppose it depends on the situation.

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December 30th, 2015, 9:33 pm

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Honestly I feel being much more closeted is normal. I mean it is just a safety thing a lot of the time, it is different with a relationship and being honest but I think closeted is the most natural way to go about things.
Think being able to be open and honest is great but risky and also likely to cause problems or have issues with your past.

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December 31st, 2015, 12:23 am

Paint

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I like how Aiken has developed into a more opened minded character. I feel like he is like most people who don't fully understand what trans or different sexualities are and is first scared of them. But once he realizes what they are he is more accepting. I love Aiken he became one of my favorites

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December 31st, 2015, 4:40 am

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I do not tell people out right I am trans. I enjoy messing with there heads to much. It can be very much a lot of fun if you let it be. I often get asked by children in a store if I am a boy or a girl and I answer only saying YES. Then there parents rush them off like I am about to say some thing that mite brake there little minds. I have found children are less breakable then we think and very adaptive and think you are cool for being Trans. I have yet to see a child become gay or trans form merely being around or talking to one. Usually they show signs long before if they are.

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December 31st, 2015, 7:39 am

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@Anna Rei: Honestly I think because children are not set in their ways yet they generally are able to be the most accepting. Unfortunatly this works on other more negative things like them developing hatred or fear of it from others (like their parents).

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December 31st, 2015, 10:28 am

Iona (Guest)

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@Anna Rei: That's because bigotry, hate, and prejudice are taught. When parents say they can't tell their kids something like this because they are just kids they are only revealing their own prejudices.

I don't tell people I'm Trans because frankly it's none of their damn business unless I'm planning on getting down with them. However, I do love messing with people who used to know me before the transition but who I haven't seen since. I like to drop clues and hints as to how I know them and watch their faces contort as they slowly put the pieces together.

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December 31st, 2015, 1:28 pm

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I wish more people would ask me questions. :/

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December 31st, 2015, 1:48 pm

very much a dude (Guest)

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being a non-op, non-passing transguy with a large chest and a somewhat fem sense of fashion, i pretty much HAVE to out myself unless i'm willing to let people think i'm female. lucky for me, i'm pretty open about that sort of thing, so it's not a huge deal.

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December 31st, 2015, 3:50 pm

Anna Rei

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@very much a dude: Yeah I am intersex. Was born male but my body and mind tries to be female ever since puberty. I am Gender Fluid cause of it. I identify mostly as female though. I have been on female HRT now going on a year now. As a male I always had breasts and hips like girl and acted much like a female most the time. I tried living as female in my early teens and then nearly got raped by my then boy friend. So I out of fear went back to living as a male and ended up hating myself for it. Now I try to live as much as a female as I can but not completely. I still dress mostly like a male only ending up looking like a tomboy. I have learned to just let people think what they want and I enjoy messing with them. If you are like me you mite as well have fun with it. Or you just got a suck life.

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December 31st, 2015, 4:29 pm

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So, has Aiken come around enough for him to take Jessica back? Would she still go back with him?

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January 1st, 2016, 5:23 am

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Aiken is adorable. Vincent too in a more silly kind of way. You referencing the "Flaming Toasters" thing is awesome. I love this :p

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January 1st, 2016, 2:13 pm

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Those two are so cute together!!

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