Just Stupid

posted January 12th, 2016, 5:07 pm


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January 12th, 2016, 5:15 pm

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I'm hoping it's clear that Drew here is not malicious. Nosy perhaps - and definitely asking about things that aren't his business - but not with any intention of causing harm. His questions, however poorly worded, are pure curiosity. He might not understand Ky's reality, but he's not being mean or making fun. He's certainly no Kellen.

That said, the boy DOES need to learn when to keep his mouth shut. XD

A lot of people predicted Drew would interpret things like this though, with him thinking Rain is like Ky. And then there's Ky's answer. Could that have been worded better, or was that about as well as it could've gone? And would a response like this satisfy Drew enough for him to let it go, or will there just be more questions?


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January 12th, 2016, 5:32 pm

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I mean, I get why Ky said it, but I don't really think its helpful for him to say its stupid to think that she could be trans, and I'd honestly say that even if Rain were cis.

Everything else he said was spot on, though.

Personally, it seems like Drew is a good noob ally. Like, he doesn't know the ropes yet, but his heart seems to be in the right place, and he doesn't seem to have a problem with Ky (even though there seem to be lots of differences between how AFAB trans people are treated and how AMAB trans people are treated, but I don't think that's the case here). I don't think Rain would have any problems with him if she decided to come out to him.

Oops, I think I might've rambled a bit...

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January 12th, 2016, 5:46 pm

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This is one of the toughest situations to deal with as the friend of a trans person, especially if they are heavily closeted like rain.

You don't want to just deny it as if the truth comes out it makes you look bad and like the trans person was being deceptive (we are not we just find it easier if not everyone knows but many think we are)

You also don't want to out them without there permission. Even saying things like "that's something you should talk to them about" that might as well translated as "ya they are"

And this situation isn't any easier when you yourself are trans, in fact most people assume you know if they are or are not because apparently having this one thing in common means we all know each other.

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January 12th, 2016, 5:59 pm

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Ugh. That's a sucky question to dodge in person. To depend on someone else dodging it for you is worse. Good thing Ky is queer themself or it might've gone badly.

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January 12th, 2016, 8:35 pm

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Whoa. I should have expected you to play that card and ask this question. Well done!

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January 12th, 2016, 10:35 pm

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Heh heh.

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Panel five: in which you get absolutely screwed by knowing things you shouldn't know and being put on the spot to try and avoid spilling the beans on what you do know.

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January 13th, 2016, 2:49 am

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Oh God, that really is the worst situation to get in.. I gotta say I love how Drew is helping himself understand something by comparing it to something similar he has more experience with, despite not knowing the thing he is trying to understand is actually a thing.

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What I mean is, it's great that Drew is basically working out how transgender works, possibly without even knowing that word, based on his experiences with Ky. There are worse ways to word it than "permanently in girl mode".

But yeah, Ky not being able to answer that question truthfully is... painful. I really feel for him right now :s
Great writing, Jocelyn! Drew is smarter than I thought ^_^ ...But not smart enough.

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January 13th, 2016, 3:22 am

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@Maplestrip: It seems unlikely to me that someone of Drew's age wouldn't have heard the word 'transsexual' somewhere (and picked up some prejudices to go with it of course :/ ). I think he's probably wording it as "always in girl mode" on purpose. Seems he knows enough to not make things too hard, but not enough to leave it up to the people in question to inform him themselves.

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January 13th, 2016, 4:15 am

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@Kimiko_0: It may be because of those prejudices that Drew is struggling so much. When I first started learning about a friend who came out as transgender, they were very much like Ky in that they were very paitent with me.

I imagine for Drew, he's in a minefield were he doesn't even know how to ask the questions, far less if he even should. Ky is probably best suited for him in this regard, because he understands Drew's confusion, and coming to terms with it. I do think the "always in girl mode" is on purpose, but I think it's more him trying to understand the world around him.

He's young and curious, and as far as the rest of his peers go, he feels he cant discuss his own feelings with them, and that this group seems to be more open to these forms of discussion. To him, he needs to understand as he's still figuring himself out.

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January 13th, 2016, 8:54 pm

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I like Drew. He may not be doing everything right here, but he's doing his best with the information he has. Ky's answer, as far as I can tell, was the best answer Ky could give. Maybe not the best answer, but the best Ky could make.

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January 13th, 2016, 10:43 pm

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So I love this comic and have for a long time, so don't take this as a hateful thing, but why do you choose to give your commentary on every strip?

It doesn't ruin my experience, of course, I know I can always just not read it, I'm just wondering why you do it. It seems to me like the comic should be able to stand on its own without the creator constantly explaining further or trying to justify the decisions they make. (and it can!)

As always, do your thing and please keep it coming, this has always confused me a bit. Am I alone in this thought?

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January 14th, 2016, 6:19 am

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@Princess Seh:

It has a lot of purposes depending on the page, but in general, I just write it because I like to. It makes me feel more connected to the readers, especially when I can share the life experiences that may have inspired a particular scene, or add additional things to think about beyond the page itself.

I'm sure there are plenty of people who don't care for my blurbs though. I know for a fact that there are several readers who never read the commentary (they usually reveal themselves by asking something I'd just explained).

Alternately, there are plenty of people who appreciate the extra time I put into writing the commentary. It might sound sometimes I'm repeating what you clearly just read, or justifying what's going on, but I have had readers not understand or completely misinterpret the page until they've read the blurb. I've even heard once or twice from people that like the blurbs better than the comic itself, which is a little weird for me. XD

There's nothing wrong with any of that. If you want to read only the pages, great. If you want to read that and my blurbs, great. And/or the other reader comments, also great. Make the experience your own and read it in whatever way works best for you. ^_^

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January 14th, 2016, 5:52 pm

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@LittleLynn84: I for one, and among the group that appreciates the commentary. Thank you for writing them.

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March 25th, 2016, 4:21 pm

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@LittleLynn84: Hey, that's fair. As long as someone likes it :)

EDIT: Including yourself haha

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January 14th, 2016, 5:05 am

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I'm not sure if Drew will be satisfied... he might ask someone else. I would have said something along the lines of "Rain is a girl, not a guy. And if you want to ask something personal about someone, don't ask a third party, because it's not their place to tell." But then I'd have to think of a way to stop him from upsetting Rain by asking her. It's not easy when you want to know something about a shy person. I suppose its best to stay quiet and show them that you care. If they feel they can trust you and want to tell you, they will. And if they don't, well... you can still live without knowing. Your relationship with them can be the same regardless of the answer.

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