Blue or Pink

posted February 20th, 2017, 5:13 pm


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February 20th, 2017, 5:31 pm

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Last minute addition, this page. Interestingly, this was in the script, but it was meant to be chapters later between Emily and another character AFTER she found out the (possible) gender of the baby (obviously, with slightly different dialogue). I felt it worked here too, and in fact helps lead into some other soon-coming conversations. Possibly better here than where it originally would've been too, as it offers a little more insight into not just Emily, but also Ana.

It's bit of a meaty page, text-wise. But what are you taking from it? Does Emily have the right idea of acknowledging the possibility of a non-cis child, or is worrying about that now just adding unneeded extra stress? And what of Ana's reactions to all of it? She seems rather surprised that Emily's considered stuff like this (despite overthinking being a staple of this circle of friends).

(Also, because I know people are going to ask, panel two is just a silly gag because I thought the scene would work better if Ana and Emily didn't have to shout all this from across the table. So I had Ana get up and zip around to the other side to talk to Emily, with Rain and Gavin having apparently missed the zipping process.)


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February 20th, 2017, 6:02 pm

CatPerson (Guest)

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@LittleLynn84:

"Does Emily have the right idea of acknowledging the possibility of a non-cis child ..."

Being aware/acknowledging the possibility is something she can hardly avoid, based on her relationship with Rain. Planning names based on it I'm not so sure of. There are plenty of unisex names but would a transgender kid prefer to choose her/his own name? I don't know. Maybe you have a more informed opinion than I (or Emily) has. ;-)

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February 20th, 2017, 6:27 pm

TranshumanAr (Guest)

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Parents are never fully prepared for being parents. At least Emily seems like a potential responsible mother.

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February 20th, 2017, 6:45 pm

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Emily definitely has the right idea. More parents need a mindset like hers.

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February 20th, 2017, 6:56 pm

Fletcher (Guest)

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As someone born with a unisex name, when i transitioned i still changed my name, it didnt matter that my old name could be used for male or female in my mind it was a name i associated with me being a male, so with that personal experiance i dont think parents should worry about giving a child a unisex name incase their child is non-cis as any name they will give the child will associate the name with a gender.

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February 20th, 2017, 7:00 pm

Itsemem (Guest)

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I had a fairly unisex given name, but I still changed it when I began transition, mainly because I had associated it with male, and that made me feel horrible, so I still changed it. And yes, Emily has the right, as does everyone, but even with the right you can never be prepared for children, never, ever. There will always be something unexpected. But I think that Emily will be able to handle and adapt, I think she will be an amazing mother.

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February 20th, 2017, 10:21 pm

Intersexedcutie (Guest)

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Honestly i sincerely like this mentality. My ex fiance and i are both nb and we were going to have kids i thought about this stuff. I can't even pretend to understand transitioning as trans but when i found out i was intersexed it became easier to be more true to myself which is somewhere between gender roles. I think if someone aware lime emily raises a child she likely wont just use a unisexed name but allow the child to just be so there wont become negativity with the name. My family calls me allie which is unisexed if spelling changed but because of being forced to always be overly feminine, my sister was a tom boy but it was okay because she liked boys, i started resenting that name. So i think if emily or other aware parents make the effort to just let their kids be themselves it will be fine :)

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February 20th, 2017, 11:47 pm

Jolinjo (Guest)

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I come from a country where it's not that easy to change your name (at all) but lots of people have middle names that they never use, but that they can legally use if they want to. Middle names are like a secret bonus extra name; so my partner and I decided that when we have kids, they will have a middle name that are gendered differently from their assigned gender (if they're gendered male, they'll have a female-gendered middle name, and vice versa). Ultimately I'd like it better if my child had the opportunity to change their name easily, because it's going to be theirs and they should be free to do what they want with it. But I feel it's good to have that just in case.

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February 21st, 2017, 1:30 am

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Bigender names are getting very popular now for a reason I see. I used Ray as my name for a while cause it is used for both male and females. They just spell it different is all. I have used Rey and Raye as well. But I prefer the Japan way Rei like Sailor Mars my favorite Sailor Moon character I am much like. Anna was my child female name I picked so I like going by Anna Rei now. My mother and fathers middle names were Ray and Raye anyways. So I mostly pick to be called Ray cause of them at first. :P

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February 22nd, 2017, 9:23 am

ViridiHarmonia64

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Wait...Ana has heterochromia?

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February 22nd, 2017, 10:00 am

TranshumanAr (Guest)

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@ViridiHarmonia64: Ana is basically female Handsome Jack.

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February 22nd, 2017, 10:23 am

Tiara (Guest)

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I haven't cried so hard as I did while I was reading this. Good tears, not bad tears. Love ya, girl. You make me feel so good when I read this. <3

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July 19th, 2017, 7:51 am

plasticwrap

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Hmmm. Interesting to hear that it's fairly common for trans people with gender neutral given names still change it. I have four names, 2 girl's and 2 boys', that my SO and I like best, and only one of them is bi-gendered. I had always thought that perhaps it would be better to pick such a name, but apparently not. Where we live, people typically do not use and often do not have middle names (I'm serious, when my SO moved to the states, she would often get incredulous looks and repeatedly questioned regarding the absence of a middle name on her official forms, etc.) but we learned recently that if you give a child a gender neutral name or a name typically associated with one gender to a child of the opposite sex, the law actually REQUIRES the parents to give their child a middle name specifically associated with the sex that appears on their birth certificates. I don't actually know what the situation with kids born intersex is, but I think it's pretty ridiculous. I certainly hope that if we have a baby girl, we don't run into trouble with the fact that the name was originally masculine.

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